Riding bikes through empty streets late at night is a favorite thing of mine to do.  My beloved room mate Tyler Saxton just invested wisely in a cool old French road bike, so we’ve spent a lot of time tearing around Fort Collins together lately.  Tonight we got back to the house just before two in the morning after a long talk sitting on some sticky tables we rode to downtown somewhere, a mile or so from our house.  The cold air, the fast bikes, the staggering drunks, the blue Gatorade, the heart-to-heart, all of it, made a great midnight outing.

We discussed tonight, like we do a lot, what God has for us in our relationships with girls.  My theory is that God has a set “Plan A” girl or guy for every person alive.  There are, in addition to this person, many other good candidates for a lifelong partner, but none will be to you what “Plan A” could be.  That’s the theory.

So my question was, are we guaranteed to find that person if we seek God for him or her and do our best to look and listen for his guidance in our relationships?  I’d like to believe that yes I will, in fact, wind up with my “Plan A” girl.  Now if I fall in love and give my heart away prematurely, I believe God will still bless my relationship with whoever if we, together, put him first in the matter and stay holy.  She becomes “Plan A” at this point, and because I cannot know that this woman is THE one for me without God explicitly telling me that, I have to live like she is “Plan A” and love her and treat her like “Plan A”.  So basically I’m saying that whatever girl I “choose”, as if God hasn’t kindly ordered every step of  mine, will become my “Plan A” girl no matter what.  Maybe this is true.

Regardless, it is my belief that although I would wind up happy with whomever, there is one specific girl who is made for me and I for her.  She is someone I won’t just be happy with, but completed with.  I think I’ll find myself  with that one.  I think I’ll know when I meet her.  I think, as I pray for her each day till we meet and thereafter, that the short term, life long relationship we’ll share will glorify God more than one of the relationships I could have had with any of the other wonderful girls all around me and because God orders my steps and brings himself glory through the ups and downs of my somewhat pathetic life, I can believe him to cross my path with that of “Plan A”.

Just some thoughts.  People talk about things like this just when they’re tired of being single and tired of thier unreasonably high standards.